Communication

Communication is the key to keep and maintain a happy relationship. To understand each other and communicate successfully we have to listen to the partner and give him the feeling to express himself.

Non verbal communication is also communication. Give him or her the feeling you understand by nodding and looking at him or her and let him or her speak freely. This will make the partner feel that he has been understood and appreciated.

If the other partner is distracted give him or her the feeling of comfort and bring him or her back to your attention to make your point in a different way.

If the partner is emotional or the things you want to say to your partner are emotional that could give an uncomfortable feeling, move closer and touch him or her on the skin. It will relax the tension and the words will come better trough.

Don´t expect that man and woman have the same view or feelings about something. Men are more to rationalize and women want more to explore their feelings.

Communication should be balanced. Each partner should have the room to talk about him- or herself. If the one talks to much of himself the other one feels like an outsider.

Let the other one speak freely until he or she is finished speaking. It creates a bigger feeling of understanding  other. If the other one constantly interrupts let him or her know that, so the habit can be broken and communication is more effectively.

If you have a quarrel or a row count till ten before you speak. The anger and adrenaline will slow down and the conversation or words will create less tension.

If there is a bad moment to communicate and it would make things worse, take another moment and the communication will be more relaxed. Timing is essential.